EFT tapping technique to remove our painful self delusions. “I am fundamentally flawed.”

When someone else is complaining about how defective they are we find it very easy to argue with them.  We just can’t argue against our own self criticisms. What is up with that? With Pro EFT tapping technique we can eliminate your delusions of defectiveness permanently.

We began life taking all information in just as we received it. Our imagination and our real life experiences were equally real. The toy made from the broom stick was a horse. We  knew it was real because Santa brought it and Santa wouldn’t fool us. The cookie we were eating, the scary thing we heard Dad say, it was all real. The information went in unedited. The ongoing programing this created remained in our unconscious mind permanently.

If you started your life receiving love and attention from your parents you grew up believing you were important and valuable. If you were pushed away while being harshly criticized, every criticism became absolutely true. When you were a child the middle brain area that processes your emotions was not fully wired. The adults in your life controlled  how you felt. How they reacted to you determined who you were inside.

As a young child your life depended on the caregivers in charge. They  appeared 20 feet tall and had all the power. Accepting that they could hurt and abandon you at any moment was just too terrifying. All young children decide they are the cause of  what happens when they are stressed.  If they are the cause, then they have the control.

As we grow into adulthood decades of accepting we are flawed imprints the delusion even further. It becomes part of our identity. We no longer accept and love ourselves as we are. We now need to perform in order to feel just barely acceptable. We become human doings. This need to prove that we are worthy of esteem strips us of our true identity. We are, after all, supposed to be human beings.

As an adult the very institutions of our society reinforce these beliefs. Unchallenged we remain fundamentally flawed, unacceptable, and unloveable our whole lives.

An example of this can be seen in the excellent true movie, “The King’s Speech.” This was about the prince who would become king. The prince grew up as the younger boy, not the special heir to the throne. He was born less than worthy. His father, the king, boasted of intentionally making his sons fear him. This was often accomplished during the brief time periods his parents were available which were known as a viewing. Another added traumatic, ongoing, and abusive event starts the young prince stammering. This initiates years of merciless teasing and ridicule. The prince begins to know in every cell of his body that he is fundamentally flawed.

As an adult his father forces him to fail at public speaking repeatedly. The king criticizes the prince so harshly that a person without a stammer would have frozen in front of the microphone. The prince longs to be competent. He seeks help from the most respected royal doctors. If he could just perform in spite of his defectiveness he could finally become a deserving prince and a worthy son.

The royal doctor is of course the obvious choice for treatment. In the movie the doctor suggests the prince smoke to relax his throat and speak while gagging on a mouth full of marbles. Oddly enough this approach failed. Each failure at the hands of the experts cements the prince’s self delusion that he is a flawed man. Incidentally the doctor in England recommending smoking was doing so 250 years after medical journals the world over had begun publishing articles confirming that smoking destroys your health and kills you. This expert advice was a couple of decades before American doctors were recommending asbestos filtered cigarettes for the ultimate in a healthy smoking experience. Our derogatory self delusions have always been exploited by experts who fail to follow the evidence. They recommend procedures that will harm and fail us. This allows the experts to remain safe from ridicule while hiding squarely in the mainstream. For most of us these experiences become the final proof that we are hopelessly flawed. The delusion grows into, “I am so flawed even the experts can’t fix me.” This was certainly true for the prince.

The hero of the story is the speech therapist who understands that the prince destined to be king needs to overcome his belief that he is flawed. The prince also needs to learn techniques that actually work. The speech therapist was even courageous enough to share with the sovereign that smoking harms one’s health. The speech therapist was condemned by the royal bishop and the royal doctor. He was lacking in proper credentials and out of the mainstream of the medical practices of his day.  The speech therapist succeeded for the prince where every one else had failed. The speech therapist had built his career on doing what works, not by doing what was most popular.

The prince began feeling competent, lovable, and acceptable on a gut level. The prince was able to overcome his impediment enough to become the new king who can speak to his people. The new king was able to successfully speak on the radio to his whole country under the enormous pressure of declaring war on Germany. The new king now felt accepted and loved. He now was living his life a full fledged human man.

With Pro EFT tapping technique we don’t have you think your way out of how bad you feel. We don’t give you medications to help you cope with how messed up you are. We instead accept your thoughts and your emotions as valid. Then we tap in acceptance of yourself anyway. Those not trained in Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapy probably don’t appreciate that this is pure genius. As Albert Ellis has known for years acceptance is the key for eliminating anxiety. The pursuit of becoming worthy of self esteem creates failure and disappointment. Pro EFT includes self acceptance statements in the Basic Recipe while the tapping simultaneously produces a deep relaxation response. This is a huge part of why we achieve such remarkable results. We don’t challenge the deluded beliefs that cause you so much emotional pain. Instead we use reversals to validate your life experiences. We eliminate the delusion by simultaneously eliminating the painful emotions. This works because the delusion depends on these painful emotions for it’s survival.

As the final stage Pro EFT tapping technique empowers you to reprogram the new emotions and beliefs you want. You truly become free. You now feel acceptable, lovable, and competent in every cell of your body. You have techniques that work. Who can stop you now? Contact me at the Pro EFT Center today and we will get back the life you were meant to live. Go to the specials page to get the best deal possible.